If you want your inbox to go from pathetic to full of promise, treat your dating
profile like an ad. You'll stand out from the competition. As a dating coach and
online dating profile writer, I know these techniques work. Apply them and you could
go from being one of many to being the “one”.
1. Target, target, target. Don't cast a wide net and try to attract everyone.
Instead, craft your profile to attract precisely the kind of man/woman you think
would be a good match. Describe who you are and what you want very clearly. Focus
on values, and be specific. In addition, make sure to talk to your matchmaker so
they get to know how great you are. The more they know about you, the better the
match will be. Targeting is a technique used by all good advertisers concerned with
efficiency and results.
2. Look appealing. Most important tip on photos: your main photo should be
a close-up of you smiling and alone (no kids, exes, friends). No alcoholic beverages
in hand. Dress appropriately (covering your body leaves some mystery, and that goes
for men and women). For your second photo, use a full body shot. For other pix,
get more creative. Do you want a partner who loves the outdoors? Post a photo of
yourself taken in a beautiful outdoor setting. Love to bike or scuba dive? Photograph
yourself in action. Consider hiring a photographer for a photo shoot. This will
be money well spent.
3. Write a compelling message. Great ads have powerful messages. Apply an
attention-grabber to the first line of your profile. You don't have to be clever,
but do say something that gives your target a reason to read on. Don’t begin with,
“It’s uncomfortable for me to write about myself.” Most people find it awkward to
sing their own praises. Whatever it is, make it engaging.
4. Craft a real message. All advertising – including your own – needs substance.
You can be clever and charming all you want, but be sure every word speaks volumes
about you. I read a profile by a woman who compared her life to the summer breaks
she had as a kid. The metaphor was clever. It also described her happiness and creativity.
It had depth and meaning.
5. Promote your benefits. Brands passionately and persuasively advertise
what makes them better than the competition. Your profile has to do the same. What
makes you special and unique? What have you worked hard at in your life? How would
someone's life improve with you in it? What sets you apart? Promote yourself!
6. Stay fresh. A good brand stays contemporary and never looks tired. This
is also important in online dating. It's smart to stay on a site for months (or
years) at a time until you find the right one. You never know who’s going to join
tomorrow! But, stay fresh, change your photo and update your profile regularly.
A profile on a site, like a product on a shelf, needs to be dusted off every once
in awhile. This will garner much added attention.
7. Proofread! Most ads are checked for spelling and grammar. Your profile
should be, too. Spelling mistakes are like walking out with a stain on your clothes.
No one notices the clothes, just the stain. So make sure your profile is not marred
by typos and poor grammar.
I hope those tips help you improve your profile and attract the right person to
your inbox!
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had tears streaming down my face as I read the essays that you wrote. I want to
date me!” ‘Compowalker’/Norwalk, CT
About Sandy Weiner, Certified Professional Life and Dating Coach:
Chief Love Officer, Last First Date, LLC "From first date to soulmate"
email: sandy@lastfirstdate.com
website: http://www.lastfirstdate.com
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